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Michael Kosinski, New Jersey, USA
Not many fathers nowadays have time and energy to engage in their children' lives because of work and busy schedules. How many of them know what their children like for breakfast, or what is their favorite toy, not to mention what is their favorite activity or interest.
That’s not Phil! He is one of the most loving fathers that I have ever known. Fully dedicated, engaged in every aspect of Lance’s life, protective and always proud of his son’s accomplishments. He loves to spend time with his son. Several times I had a chance to see them both together and always it was clear that being together brought joy to Phil and Lance.
Regardless of how long or how well you know Phil; if in the last three years you had a chance to meet him or talk to him then most likely you had a chance to find out that he is a father. His son Lance is one of his favorite conversation topics, his joy and pride. And even if you do not stumble upon the topic of parenthood, trust me, Phil eventually will. That’s only because there are many good reasons for it. His unparallel love as a father, his active participation in his son’s life and abundant joy of raising a child make fatherhood and child development topics such great conversation subjects for Phil. Doesn’t matter if you are a parent or not, you are bound to learn a thing of two about child development from Phil.
I wouldn’t be able to count how many times Phil shared stories with me about trips he took with Lance, about times that Lance was spending with him and other children, how proud he is of Lance’s development and accomplishments. These would range from small things and often trivial to us such as recognizing road signs or finding things on Google to mature tasks, especially for a three year-old, such as making telephone calls or reading long complicated words. Phil always made sure that his son is not only developing mentally but also socially and as a child he has lots of fun, ability to meet other children and at the same time learn something new.
Other testimonials on this site are an unsurpassed proof that other people share the same view of Phil as a father, a mentor and protector as I do. Loving, protective, carrying, responsible, dedicated, involved are just few words that describe Phil as a father. Many fathers can only look up to him and many are not capable of doing even half as much for their children as what he has already accomplished. I am confident that I am not wrong by saying Lance is his whole world.
When I found out that Lance was taken away from him I was shocked and I couldn’t imagine what impact this must have had on Phil. Unfortunately this has also a profound impact on Lance who was suddenly separated from his father taken abroad and cut out from the world he was growing up in. I cannot comprehend what Phil is going through emotionally and I hope this ends quickly and he is reunited with Lance. My thoughts and prayers are with you! I know you won’t stop until you have your son back, stay strong!
Sreedhar Balasubramanian, New Jersey, USA
I have known Phil for about two years. He is a very straightforward, hard working, and honest person. Phil has a wide range of interests and I have had conversations with him on lots of subjects, and it is easy to say that the topic that Phil gets most emotional and excited about is parenting.
Few months ago my second daughter turned 6 weeks and she was showing some colicy symptoms. When I casually mentioned about this to Phil, I realized that he had plenty of information on parenting subjects such as behavioral patterns, physical development, sleep habits, and diet. Although this is my second kid and for many out there like me who have 2 or more kids, I do not think I have as much information as Phil (for a first child parent).
Phil has gained all this parenting knowledge so that he can give the best to Lance by spending a whole lot of time on reading many parenting books and articles. Again speaking from my personal experience I know that it is not easy to teach a 3 year old. It demands good patience, persistence, and skills to teach infants. Lance for his age was able to name the capital of several countries, name train stations on their regular route, browse the web (not easy to teach hand eye coordination), and the toughest of all, identify elements in the periodic table.
I noted that Phil and Lance have this special father-son bonding which enables them to have lot of fun spending time together playing and learning. I am not sure how many readers of this testimonal exercise. Out of those who do exercise it may be safe to assume that a person exercises for his/her own good health. But here we have a Dad who exercises because he enjoys carrying his son on his shoulders. Out of the many pictures that I have seen of Phil and Lance I noticed that Lance is most of the time on Phil's shoulders. I happened to ask Phil how he manages to carry his Son on his shoulders for such long distances. Phil told me that he made exercise part of his daily routine just so that he stays healthy and be there for his Son at all times, and also could carry Lance on his shoulder all over the city.
Phil please hang in there, be strong and keep the hope. With all the prayers and wishes from family and friends I am sure that the truth and justice will prevail and your vacant shoulders will soon be carrying Lance again.
Sandra Kahn, New Jersey, USA
I have the pleasure of knowing Phil for the past two years as we live in the same building. He is a respectable and caring man, heart and soul. Seeing Lance with his father would always bring a smile to my face and warm my heart as it was clearly obvious how deeply connected they were. Phil lived for Lance and was passionate about Lance’s learning and happiness. Every time I saw Lance with his father he had a spring in his step – such a happy boy and always on an adventure and learning something new whether it was walking to class or on their way to get a bite to eat.
It is a complete outrage that Lance has been taken from his father. His friends, including my 2 ½ year old daughter, want to feel the light of Lance’s smile shine on them again soon.